November 21, 2011

Sheva Brachos Rambam kills orthodox marriages

You hear it by every sheva brachos; "The husband should be mechabed his wife more then himself, and she should be mechabed him more then enough." (Rambam, the end of Eshus 15) Now this Rambam seems to play right into the hands of the egalitarian feminists, that the husband and wife must both be king in the house, and they must both stand up (in respect) for each other. This has now led to some women making kiddush every second week instead of the husband. (Click Nov 27)

Besides the fact that no country in the world is run by two kings, there are many other problems. First of all, if your father asks you for a drink and your mother asks you for a drink you bring your father first, because both you and your mother are mechuyav in the kavod of your father. This is a special marriage law. And if your parents are divorced this law doesn't apply and you can bring the drink to any one of them. (Kiddushin 31a, last Mishna in Kreesus

So first of all, I thought the husband is supposed to honer his wife more then himself, so why doesn't she get the drink first? Number 2, why did the Rambam make two different paragraphs; one for the husband and one for the wife, with completely different wording for the husband and the wife? Why not just one big egalitarian paragraph? 

And number 3, what does it mean to honer her more then himself? Does it mean that if he likes a cup of coffee he should bring her 2 cups of coffee? Or should he stand up for her twice instead of once when she comes into the room? How come by "Ohava kegufo" he only loves her as much as himself and not more then himself?

The answer to all this is that the Rambam is not talking about the kind of kavod that the wife has to give to the husband (Like to bring him a drink). He's talking about a different kind of kavod; buying her nice clothes (Dressing her up). He's quoting the Talmud that he should spend more on his wife's clothes then his own, because the embarrassment of a woman (with bad clothes) is greater then a man (Rashi and Marsha end of Yevamos 62, Chulin 84b, Sanhedrin 76b, Rashi-"he should buy her nice jewelry"). Reb Yochanon used to call his clothes "mechabdosai" (Sanhedrin 94a on the bottom, Shabbos 113a on the bottom) 

The feminists brainwashed the girls that they will only be happy if they make their own kiddush and they wear the pants in the house. This is a big fat lie! What a woman really wants is nice clothes and jewelry, and a loving card that comes along with it. And the love and affection is even more important then the money (Sota p3,m4; Ksubos 62b). 

And unless she's a feminist she does not need her husband to stand up or bow down to her. In fact, the retards who do want this, they also want love and affection from the husband "on demand". Can you believe this? "When my left ear grows a beard that's when they will get love and affection from me". (Like I said; click Nov 27 2010)

And now you can go back to the Rambam, and see why the wording of the husbands paragraph is completely different then the wording of the wife's paragraph.