See the end of Aug 6, 2012. The Torah has nothing to be embarrassed about, and if you don't like what the Torah says you can go hang yourself. But before you hang yourself- Mr. Dovbear- see if you can bend back your penis and put it into your hole. The Talmud in Sanhedrin talks about this. Is this called gay sex? And the answer is-- No erection- no sex. (As far as I remember) A dead thing does not make sex.
Actually, I looked up Sanhedrin 55, and It's a machlokes if a dead penis is called sex. So if It's not called sex then it's not a problem, but if it is called sex then you get hit twice, once for the gay penetrator, and once for the receiver. (Sanhedrin ibid)